INVITE MORE LOVE INTO YOUR LIFE.
Sex Coach, Relationship Coach,
Couples Coach, Tantra Coach, Sex Therapy, Sexologist
I am dedicated to helping my clients feel more alive, fulfilled and sexy.
As a Somatica® trained Sex and Relationship Coach and Certified Sexologist, I celebrate people's unique desires and goals, and help clients uncover what's holding them back from getting what they want from relationship. Together we practice and play, with the ultimate goal of developing a new repertoire of tools and skills. My greatest gift is helping you find your innate vitality and sexy, unique selves.
I am especially drawn to working with clients who struggle with initiating intimacy and also those new to the dating scene after life transitions or divorce. I am also passionate about working with couples who want more passion and satisfaction from their sex lives and relationships. With experiential practice as the backbone of every session, I help clients learn new skills, work through triggers, gain confidence, and express more of what they want and need. This is practical, hands on work that yields new insights with every session.
I create a safe and playful space for people to deeply explore how they want and need to be loved in the world. Together we create a road map for developing new skills and behaviors, communicating desires, working through conflict, and bringing about real change in relationships.
With a B.A. in Psychology, and an MBA in Organizational Behavior, I have always been passionate about what makes people tick, and more importantly, what makes people truly happy. Today I am committed to helping people experience more vitality and connection in their lives. In addition to being a Somatica Coach, I am also trained as a Skydancing Tantra Teacher and Coach. I help clients get out of their heads, feel more energy in their bodies, and learn how to move and enhance that energy, leading to a deeper ability to be present and feel vibrantly alive.
Today I am proud to practice a ground-breaking new method of experiential, relational and body-based intimacy coaching. The Somatica Method ® empowers people to learn and practice new skills and ways of being in a supportive, boundaried, non-judgmental space. I completed my first Core Training with the Somatica Institute in 2017, returned in 2018 as an Assistant, and then as a Group Leader in 2021 and 2022. I also completed the Advanced Character Strategy Training in 2019, as well as attending continuing education trainings in Internal Family Systems psychology, trauma focused somatic therapy, and Esther Perel's Couples Therapy workshops.
"True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.” Brene Brown
The Somatica Method of Sex and Relationship Coaching offers a "relationship lab" experience, which means that the client(s) and coach interact vulnerably and authentically with one another as they explore what is deeply desired in intimate relationships. It is an embodied approach that focuses on how we limbically connect with ourselves and others. Integrating body awareness and sensitivity into our experience allows us to know and express ourselves more fully in the world. It often leads to an explosion of creativity, inspiration, and passion for life.
The Somatica Method is experiential. We practice a wide array of relational and communication tools that allow one to practice skills for successful connection, erotic embodiment and deeper intimacy. We don't just talk, we practice. We also give and receive feedback about what's working and what isn't. Research shows that people learn and institute change by engaging in the actual experience of doing and practicing skills.
This coaching style allows for rapid change in behavior, skills and confidence.
For more information about the Somatica Method, please click this link
Sometimes there is no substitute for real world practice. This is why, for many clients, getting out of the office and experiencing multiple dating scenarios is the best way to make exponential leaps in skills and confidence. It also allows for more insightful diagnosis of "tricky" spots - areas in the relating realm that pose extra challenge. We will practice meeting for the first time, empowered body language, communication techniques that work, and escalating from coffee talk to more complex and intimate connection.
Within the boundaries of the Somatica Method we will practice real relationship skills with honest, compassionate feedback, and lots of opportunity for practice. The goal is to help you feel more grounded, powerful and confident in what you have to offer in relationship.
We will practice making conversation, flirting, and confident body language in different dating environments. This extra dating practice acts as a catalyst for clients' confidence and taking more risks with new people. Knowing someone has your back is invaluable as you practice new ways of relating to others.
Experiential relationship coaching is a cutting-edge approach to improving couples' relationships that prioritizes active participation over passive discussion, and encourages couples to learn through experience and bodily sensations. Unlike traditional talk therapy, which may focus more on discussing problems or past experiences, experiential coaching involves exercises and activities designed to promote intimacy, trust and sexual connection.
During these exercises, couples are guided to become more aware of their bodies and emotions, fostering both self empathy and understanding towards their partner. They are encouraged to tune into their own and each other's desires and communicate more effectively. By focusing on embodied learning, couples can learn and practice new ways of relating in a more intuitive and natural way.
This emphasis on experiential learning allows couples to internalize these experiences and carry them forward into their daily lives, resulting in long-lasting improvements in their relationship. With this approach, the coaching process can be more effective in less time, and often a lot more fun!
"I feel lucky to have found Kathryn. Years of "stuckness" were swept away. She guided me through a process where I re-found core masculine energy and sexuality. It's hard to describe how joyous the whole process is. Of course you have to do the work on your side. But the process is fun and alive. Kathryn creates an environment where you can find your best, most authentic self. Authenticity is the first step to any relationship. Think about it - it is a rare person who can help you find authenticity. Kathryn does! I am a more engaged and alive partner."
"Kathryn is an AMAZING human being. Period. She is gifted with an amazing compassionate nature with an ability to make learning about oneself fun and enjoyable instead of an awkward experience. The very first session was GOLD and she nailed down traits about myself and provided excellent insights that I have reflected upon since. Being vulnerable can be difficult, as well as really spending time to learn about yourself and grow (believe me, I get it).....so make it easy on yourself, work with Kathryn. Congrats, you just won the lottery."
"Working and playing with Kathryn has been an incredible blessing. I've discovered more love in my life that was, at times, somehow just out of reach. Her experiential methods helped me to leap out of my head into the knowing of my body. She's a gifted beautiful guide and teacher who has gently and lovingly opened new possibilities, new pleasures, and new ways of being in this world. More love is what she is really up to, gather your courage and make time to work with you, you won't regret it. "
"I was in a deep, dark depression after a divorce and Kathryn lassoed me with a rope so I would stop falling. Her demeanor, personality, caring, and sincerity made it easy for me to vomit forth all my frustrations, issues, and eventually....positiveness. She has listening skills--bringing up subjects that we discussed from our first session that even I had forgotten about. It's so easy to talk with her and offload as well as utilizing her skills in providing insights to assist in learning about oneself and growth. Highly recommended."
"Kathryn is warm and welcoming, understanding and non-judgmental, and has helped me improve my relationship with myself and my partner. Our sessions include talking through experiences as well as learning new mental and physical techniques to handle specific issues. I always look forward to my appointments with her and highly recommend her services to anyone looking to enhance, heal or simply further explore their sexuality!"
"Working with Kathryn has been a collaboration in my growth and healing somatically. I had previously worked with amazing people who helped me untangle the mental effects of past trauma, but the score was still being held in my body. That disconnect was keeping me from being whole. Kathryn listened, challenged me, and stood beside me while I sought to have my physical being have corrective experience. I am now experiencing life with a sense of mind, body, sexuality and spirit being integrated, and a new path is unfolding ahead of me. I am eternally grateful. "
"Kathryn is an outstanding human being. Her ability to be present, caring, personal and vulnerable makes her very special. It was the best money I've ever spent on myself. You won't be disappointed. With her help I am a transformed man knowing what I desire and I have the self confidence to manifest it. Thank you so much Kathryn. I won't forget you or our chats."
"With Kathryn's exceptional compassion I always felt at ease and safe in confronting my deepest anxieties. Her practical, experiential approach was extremely effective, enabling me to free myself of fears and insecurities that had been holding me back for so long."
"Kathryn has been amazingly intuitive at understanding what I need. She is an awesome healer who has allowed me to explore my sexuality in a very comfortable and nurturing environment. Every time I see her I leave feeling refreshed and confident and more capable of communicating and exploring my sexuality."
"I have spent my entire life emotionally numb and feeling isolated from everyone. I had two sessions with Kathryn and it was a life changing experience. For the first time in my life I experienced what love is and how it feels. I am no longer stuck in my old trauma but am able to open up and connect with people from a place of strength and vulnerability."
"I have been working with Kathryn for the past 6 months on getting out of my head and trusting my body and intuition. Kathryn brings a warm and compassionate non-judgmental approach that allows me to be fully present in our sessions. Over the past few months I've learned how to trust myself, go after what I want in my relationships and be present and accepting of all of me that shows up. I highly recommend working with her."
"Kathryn is a wonderful coach who has helped me grow so much and made my life better. She is a great teacher. This is the BEST therapy I have ever had. As someone with Aspergers, Kathryn has really helped me."
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Rumi
“We accept the love we think we deserve.” Stephen Chbosky
"True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.” Brene Brown
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Sex and Relationship Coaching is not psychotherapy. I am not a licensed psychotherapist, psychiatrist, psychologist, or licensed marriage and family therapist, and I do not offer medical advice.
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